Wednesday, December 15, 2010 • 12:01 am
When you turn 40 years old, you’re not sure if you should be looking back or looking forward. I know in my head that it’s supposed to be both as both the past and the future are significant and meaningful
But in doing so, I’ve also learned that if I’m not wise and careful, I can be so immersed in the past or the future that I may miss out on the gift of the present.
In fact, one of my constant reminders to myself – especially as a father and husband is:
to be present…
One of my biggest fears is waking up one morning Read the rest of this entry »
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Thursday, November 4, 2010 • 12:01 am
There’s a running joke amongst my staff. The joke is basically…me.
I’ll take it as a sign of their deep and profound love and affection for me. If that’s not the case, we’ll have a couple job openings at our church…
One of their jokes is how they mimic a phrase that has been recently and constantly on my heart, mind, and lips:
Turning 40 in itself last week was a big reminder of that very fact but if that wasn’t enough, I’m faced with reminders every single day when I see my children. In fact, my eldest child – “J” – just turned 12 years old.
O M G
Yes, 12 years old. It wasn’t that long ago when we celebrated her 2nd birthday. Happy Birthday to “J” but here my question to you: Read the rest of this entry »
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Friday, June 25, 2010 • 12:01 am
How fast time flies….
has been on my lips, heart, and soul in this season of my life. Call it my mid-life “reflection” as I approach the big 40 in October.
How do I know I’m aging? Read the rest of this entry »
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Monday, June 21, 2010 • 12:01 am
Yesterday was Father’s Day and like many of you, I took some time to reflect upon my relationship with my father.
There’s so much to share. One thing I am convicted of is to strive to live without regrets in the relationships of my lives. I don’t want to be on my deathbed – many years from now – with regrets over relationships that I can impact, influence, and invest – now.
Some reflections of my relationship with my father: Read the rest of this entry »
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Thursday, June 17, 2010 • 11:28 am
I don’t have a perfect marriage. I am not perfect. Minhee, my wife, is not perfect as well.
We have shared some of our mistakes in our marriage. I share about my funk. But having said all of this, we love one another and live by grace within the covenant of marriage…
I also respect and admire her for so many things. Some of them include her gentleness, humility, and…her sense of humor. I walked into our bedroom last Sunday with her doing her facial mask thing (which she rarely does). It made me laugh since it kind of scared me. I took a picture and when I threatened to post in on Facebook, she responded:
“You should. People need to laugh and enjoy life.”
After I posted the picture (below), many commenters freaked out Read the rest of this entry »
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Wednesday, May 26, 2010 • 12:01 am
In the recent months, the other pastors and I have been teaching on the numerous aspects and layers of relationships. And recently, I had the nervous but enjoyable experience of teaching with my wife, Minhee, as we shared about our marriage.
On the blog, I’ve recently shared my Top 10 Wedding Advice and Top 10 Marriage Advice. During our sermon, we shared our answers to the following questions:
- Three things Minhee would like to share with all the husbands at Quest and three things I’d share with all the wives at our church.
- Three biggest mistakes we’ve made in our marriage. We each shared our own.
- Three things we appreciate the most of one another.
- And some final exhortations including the key to our marriage: “Bless one another.”
Several years ago, I wouldn’t have had the guts to have my wife teach alongside me – especially about our marriage. Not that our marriage is a mess in any way but I was more interested in projecting a certain image of who and what I thought I should be as a pastor – especially as the lead pastor. But when you’re a few months shy of 40 years old, you don’t care Read the rest of this entry »
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Friday, May 14, 2010 • 12:01 am
Well, it would only make sense to follow up the list of my Top 10 Wedding advice by sharing with you my Top 10 marriage advice. And eventually, I should go back and share my list of dating advice.
Minhee and I have been married for nearly 14 years and we’ve learned so much. I also promise to share our “biggest mistakes.” Anyway, I’m not Dr. Phil or Dr. Gottman but here’s my Top 10 Marriage advice or rather, my 9 advice and a request for you to contribute:
- In dating and courtship and in the decision to life together, you’re ultimately agreeing to certain expectations. Not expectations of perfection but expectations of who, what, where, when, and why. Marriage – not in a contractual way but in a covenant way is an honoring of those expectations…
- Which is why it’s so important that you marry the “right” person and continue “being” the right person. Read the rest of this entry »
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Friday, February 5, 2010 • 12:01 am
Here’s part 2 of my sermons on a theology of singlehood as part of a larger series on Relationships. As you listen/watch the sermon, I do have a question and would love to get some feedback. It’s the most prominent question I’ve received over the past couple weeks as I’ve taught on singlehood:
You say that singlehood is a choice and a response to God’s revelation. I agree in part but what if it’s NOT a choice. What do you do when you’re single not by choice but because there’s no one out there. What do you do?
The above question is what I’ll be teaching on over the next couple weeks along with the importance of focusing and investing on the three primary aspects: passion, vision, and mission. But how would you pastorally answer that question above?
Here’s the description of the above sermon (articulated by our video/audio staff lead: Mr. Randor 2K): Read the rest of this entry »
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Monday, February 1, 2010 • 12:01 am
On February 1, 1997, Minhee and I exchanged vows and committed ourselves to Christ, one another, our families and community – the journey of loving, serving, and growing as husband and wife, father and mother, and mutual followers of Christ. Today, we celebrate our 13th anniversary. I know that it is customary [and wise] to speak well of your spouse on your anniversary but Minhee truly is an expression and embodiment of God’s grace and beauty to my life. Our marriage – while clearly not perfect – remains focused on the three pillars I often share with others: Passion. Vision. Mission.
We met in Korea and dated for a week before I returned to the States. We engaged in many phone calls and probably exchanged over a thousand letters since we both weren’t using this technology called ‘electronic mail.’ Just in case some of you don’t know what letters are…it’s when you put a pen to paper and write.
And while people boast of their marriage proposal stories, I’m pretty sure mine is the most romantic and unique:
The summer before our wedding [while I was still a student in seminary in New Jersey], I put on my best suit, got on my knees, picked up the phone to call Minhee in Korea, and in my best Korean drama voice…asked her to marry me.
Here’s our wedding photo that still continues to amaze people. Minhee looks her usual photogenic self and I’ve been told I look “very different” – so different that people ask if it’s her “first husband.” Read the rest of this entry »
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Tuesday, December 22, 2009 • 12:01 am
Since everything is so current, I may be biased but 2009 has been one of the most (if not the most) difficult year of my life – and yet, incredibly formative for the reasons I share below.
How was this past year for you?
As part of our human inclination and disposition, we make plans and we do all that we can to pursue those plans. Things turn bad when some of those plans don’t come to pass. Things suck when everything feels it’s moving in the opposite trajectory of what you hoped for.
In their hearts human beings plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps. Proverbs 16:9
To list a few challenging things in 2009: Read the rest of this entry »
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