Eugene Cho

theology of singlehood 4 – don’t kiss dating good-bye and the most important things…

In my final message on a theology of singlehood, I share thoughts about:

  • Having faith vs allowing cynicism and pessimism to rule over us.
  • The importance of wisdom.

But most of the sermon is focused on two main areas:

Don’t kiss dating good-bye meaning that I’m a fan of Christians dating but Christians shouldn’t adopt a worldly or self-centered perspective of dating that can equate to recreational dating or that perpetuate a state of immaturity and irresponsibility that is impacting many people [and not just “the young”]. I’m personally a fan of dating because we really need to take time to build healthy friendships to even consider the possibility of dating and beyond. But in lieu of the question, “Should we date or not,” the more important questions are:

  • Who are you? [Are we mature enough]
  • And how do you date? [Who are you when no one’s watching you?]

“What’s the most important thing as you consider someone for marriage?”

We all have our answers. I’d love to hear yours but let me also say that my concern is that we simply can’t reduce the answers to “the one most important thing.” There’s simply too many things. It’s too important and frankly, it’s too complex. All this time, I prided myself in being a simple dude…and that I ain’t. And so is my wife. Imagine the additional complexities (and combustion) of two people coming together to become one…for life.

And while there are numerous helpful resources and advice, I share three for folks to consider: Passion. Vision. Mission. If you’ve got some time, I’d encourage you to watch it or listen to it via podcast.

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In our culture, we can be so obsessed with the "spectacular" or "glamorous." The Church often engagws in thia language and paradigm...but what if God has called many of us to small, ordinary things?

Will we still be faithful?
Will we still go about such things with great love and joy?

I recently came across this picture taken by @mattylew, one of our church staff...and I started tearing up: This is my mother; in her 70s; with realities of some disabilities that make it difficult for her to stand up and sit down...but here she is on her knees and prostate in prayer. She doesn't have any social media accounts, barely knows how to use her smartphone, doesn't have a platform, hasn't written a book, doesn't have any titles in our church, isn't listed as a leader or an expert or a consultant or a guru. But she simply seeks to do her best - by God's grace - to be faithful to God. She prays for hours every day inteceding for our family, our church, and the larger world.

Even if we're not noticed or celebrated or elevated...let's be faithful. Our greatest calling as followers of Christ is to be faithful. Not spectacular. Not glamorous. Not popular. Not relevant. And not even successful in the eyes of the world.

Be faithful. Amen. #notetoself (and maybe helpful for someone else)

At times, we have to say ‘NO’ to good things to say ‘YES’ to the most important things.

We can't do it all.
Pray and choose wisely.
Then invest deeply. May our compassion not just be limited to the West or to those that look like us. Lifting up the people of Iraq, Iran, and Kurdistan in prayer after the 7.3 earthquake - including the many new friends I met on a recent trip to Iraq.

The death toll rises to over 400 and over 7,000 injured in multiple cities and hundreds of villages along the Western border with Iraq.

Lord, in your mercy... We are reminded again and again...that we are Resurrection People living in a Dark Friday world.

It's been a tough, emotional, and painful week - especially as we lament the horrible tragedy of the church shootings at Sutherland Springs. In the midst of this lament, I've been carried by the hope, beauty, and promise of our baptisms last Sunday and the raw and honest testimonies of God's mercy, love, and grace.

Indeed, God is not yet done. May we take heart for Christ has overcome the world. "Without genuine relationships with the poor, we rob them of their dignity and they become mere projects. And God did not intend for anyone to become our projects." Grateful this quote from my book, Overrated, is resonating with so many folks - individuals and  NGOs. / design by @preemptivelove .
May we keep working 
on ourselves 
even as we seek 
to change the world. 
To be about the latter 
without the former 
is the great temptation 
of our times.

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