In my final message on a theology of singlehood, I share thoughts about:
- Having faith vs allowing cynicism and pessimism to rule over us.
- The importance of wisdom.
But most of the sermon is focused on two main areas:
Don’t kiss dating good-bye meaning that I’m a fan of Christians dating but Christians shouldn’t adopt a worldly or self-centered perspective of dating that can equate to recreational dating or that perpetuate a state of immaturity and irresponsibility that is impacting many people [and not just “the young”]. I’m personally a fan of dating because we really need to take time to build healthy friendships to even consider the possibility of dating and beyond. But in lieu of the question, “Should we date or not,” the more important questions are:
- Who are you? [Are we mature enough]
- And how do you date? [Who are you when no one’s watching you?]
“What’s the most important thing as you consider someone for marriage?”
We all have our answers. I’d love to hear yours but let me also say that my concern is that we simply can’t reduce the answers to “the one most important thing.” There’s simply too many things. It’s too important and frankly, it’s too complex. All this time, I prided myself in being a simple dude…and that I ain’t. And so is my wife. Imagine the additional complexities (and combustion) of two people coming together to become one…for life.
And while there are numerous helpful resources and advice, I share three for folks to consider: Passion. Vision. Mission. If you’ve got some time, I’d encourage you to watch it or listen to it via podcast.
EUGENE CHO 