Eugene Cho

to simply be…

It’s that time of the year where many are formulating their new year’s resolutions.

I suppose that I have a list of a few mental resolutions I will again aspire to tackle including one that involves my expanding waistline but that’s not the point of this post. 😉

But rather than focusing on achieving goals or milestones, I’ve been thinking along some other wavelengths. Mind you, I typically resonate with goals, milestones, metrics, and quantifiable stuff. Last year (this time), my goals focused on launching and establishing One Day’s Wages and stabilizing Quest Church and I feel really good about both.

But this year, I have no such goals or tasks. Rather,

my hope is to simply be…

By this, I’m also specifically mindful of wanting to…

  • be a better husband.
  • be a better father.

Clearly, easier said than done but nevertheless, these aspects of my calling have always been important but more often than not, are the ones that are more readily pushed aside.

Isn’t it amazing how the things that are closest and dearest to us are often the ones we take for granted?

In a spirit of courage, I asked one of my daughters the following question:

How do you think I can be a better father?

Gulp.

There’s something about the honesty of kids that’s both a little scary and very refreshing. She responded by suggesting three things.

  1. “We should play more games together.”
  2. “You should spend less time on the computer.”
  3. “You should have some funnier jokes.”

#1 and #2 are spot on. We need to resurrect our passion for Scrabble and Monopoly. And keep the laptop/smartphone off when I come home till 9pm when the kids go to sleep.

As for the comment about #3 and funnier jokes, I’m tempted to ground her for that comment. Totally off. Wrong.

I can’t help it if she can’t appreciate my brilliant sense of humor.

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16 Responses

  1. dmbaldwin says:

    Hey Eugene,
    I totally understand the joke thing. Here’s an idea. When we would invite people over for dinner after dinner it always got around to telling crazy college stories with those that came over. In high school our son confided in me that he thought the only reason we had people over for dinner was to tell funny college stories. One evening he called me from college conveying a great prank his dorm floor had carried off. After we laughed and talked for a bit I told him he was building his repertoire of funny college stories to tell with those he and his future wife invited over for dinner. That was good.
    Have an awesome 2011 Eugene.
    Blessings,
    Dave

  2. g says:

    The older that kids get, the more they understand the humor in sarcasm and irony. Probably one of the biggest differences I’ve noticed since teaching 4th/5th graders versus last year’s 3rd graders. heh.

  3. Bryan says:

    surprised they didn’t complain about your Bill Russell like stats in block shots per game in family b-ball

  4. Kenny says:

    Oh come on Eugene, I remember your jokes back from the Onnuri days. Your daughter is spot on with all three.

    On another note, it turns out my friends Mike Ahn and his wife Miki attend your church now and love it there.

  5. LOL. I love kids! I totally understand why Jesus welcomed children. I’m sure he had the most fun with them! That 3rd point should apply to us all… been thinking about blogging about that for awhile; it’s a deep thought with many implications. In 2011, I hope to find the meaning of life. haha. How about that for a general…long-term…life-long goal? Or just how to make a living being a musician.

  6. Leo Chen says:

    Since returning from my 3-week vacation when I had no phone, no email, no internet, no facebook, I have a new-found freedom from all of them. I intend to keep it that way going into this new year. It’s actually not as much about freedom from any of the above as freedom to spend more time with people face to face and having more real relationships instead of virtual relationships. Instead of tweeting about what I want to do, I hope to have more time doing them instead of being glued to the computer.

  7. Tony Lin says:

    By the way, how many hours do you think you put in each week? I’d be curious to hear from other pastors as well. Someone asked me that awhile back but I had no clue. I wanted to say about 40 but after I started thinking about it, I think it’s a lot more…

    • Eugene Cho says:

      tony: to be honest, i don’t really know but i look at a full-time work week at 50 hours/week. i know that there are weeks i do 60 but 50 is a great balance for me. and fwiw, 50 was what my denomination, ECC, created for me when quest went from non-denominational to ECC.

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As we honor Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., don't forget the God behind the man. The one true God who deposited this dream into MLK is still speaking to us today. Are we listening?

Be courageous. Be brave.

Being invited by the King Family to speak at the MLK worship service at Ebenezer Baptist Church in 2016 remains one of the most unexpected honors of my life. On the right is his daughter, Dr. Bernice King and his sister, Dr. Christine King Farris. Walking throughstreet markets in different parts of the world is the best. Soaking in the culture. Listening to the local language and music. Enjoying the amazing cuisine. Meeting new friends. Praying for the Gospel to penetrate. #ChiangRai Blessed be the local, indigenous leaders for it is they who live in the very communities they seek to love. For it is they who understand their context and culture...better than a Westerner ever will. For it is they who will continue to tenaciously pursue a better world with hope, justice and love when visitors like me leave.

Yes, blessed be the local, indigenous leaders. What an honor and privilege to celebrate with the on-the-ground local @thefreedomstory team to celebrate the recent opening of their Education and Resource Center for the local youth in Chiang Rai, Thailanf. This was made possible through a partnership and matching grant by @onedayswages and The Freedom Story.

While it was an honor to be there to cut the cord and say a few words, this is an example of collaboration. Much love to the Freedom Story team including their co-founders Tawee Donchai and @Rachel Goble, to their staff who live in the community, who understand their context and culture, and who tenaciously pursue a better world with hope, justice and love. And of course, much love to the students themselves for they each matter. Finally, to each person that donated to @onedayswages to make this grant possible.

May hundreds and even thousands of youth be impacted, encouraged, and mentored. May they capture a glimpse of God's love for them.

Photo: @benjaminedwards Part 2 on my wrestling with the complex issue of human trafficking. In part, documenting my trip to Thailand for @onedayswages...to listen, learn, and visit one of our partner orgs @thefreedomstory. More to come.

There's such painful and poignant irony in pursuing justice...unjustly. One way we do this is when we reduce people into projects...and thus, propagating the dangerous power dynamic of US as heroes and THEM as helpless and exclusively as victims. So dangerous.

Human trafficking is not just an issue. It’s ultimately, about people. Depending on the sources of statistics, there are anywhere from 29-40 million people in some form of forced labor and slavery, including sex trafficking.

And one thing I’ve learned, personally, is how easy it is easy to reduce people into projects which is why mutuality, reciprocity, and dignity are so vital. These are critical because God never intended people to be reduced into projects.

We forget this and we indirectly foster a culture and system of victimization or worse, the pornification of the poor or in this case, "the trafficked." And when you start dehumanizing the poor or trafficked, you have no genuine desire to build relationships with them. You believe or build stereotypes in broad strokes, singular, black and white narratives that have been told about them. You believe the lie that they have nothing to teach us and are incapable of contributing to the larger society.

Lord, break our hearts for the things that break your heart. Give us eyes to see others through your eyes. Give us humility so that we acknowledge our own need to learn and grow. (Photo via @thefreedomstory) May our hearts break for injustice and exploitation - whether abroad or in our own backyard. Spending a few days for @onedayswages in Thailand. Along with one of our board members, I'm traveling with a group of 10 others to learn, listen and visit a few NGOs including one of our partners, @thefreedomstory. Couple days ago, we spent an evening walking through Soi Cowboy. On a given night, about 10,000 people are in the ring of prostitution in Soi Cowboy, Nana Plaza, and Patpong. Much of this is driven by the consumer demand. Approximately 70% of male tourists go to Thailand for the sex industry.

Human trafficking is complex. Anyone that says otherwise is lying or selling you something. 
To reduce it to simple terms, or simple problems, or simple solutions…cause harmful consequences. While we can all agree that it is sinful, egregious, evil, and wrong…there are many nuances and complexities. It would serve all of us to grow deep in the awareness not just of the larger issue but the nuances and complexities.

When people speak of human trafficking, they tend to be ‘attracted’ to the issue of sexual exploitation. Dare I say it, human trafficking has become trendy as a justice issue.

Clearly, it’s evil and egregious. But to reduce the entire issue of human trafficking into one form is not helpful. Because the mission is to fight the entire injustice of slavery. And if that’s the commitment, we have to not only combat sexual exploitation but engage in issues of poverty, forced labor, commercial exploitation in tourism, land rights and power abuses, organized crime networks, cultural and economic realities, etc.

Oh, it's so complex but we have to be engaged whether in Thailand or in our own backyards. May our hearts break for the things that break the heart of God... More thoughts to come.

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