Eugene Cho

to simply be…

It’s that time of the year where many are formulating their new year’s resolutions.

I suppose that I have a list of a few mental resolutions I will again aspire to tackle including one that involves my expanding waistline but that’s not the point of this post.😉

But rather than focusing on achieving goals or milestones, I’ve been thinking along some other wavelengths. Mind you, I typically resonate with goals, milestones, metrics, and quantifiable stuff. Last year (this time), my goals focused on launching and establishing One Day’s Wages and stabilizing Quest Church and I feel really good about both.

But this year, I have no such goals or tasks. Rather,

my hope is to simply be…

By this, I’m also specifically mindful of wanting to…

  • be a better husband.
  • be a better father.

Clearly, easier said than done but nevertheless, these aspects of my calling have always been important but more often than not, are the ones that are more readily pushed aside.

Isn’t it amazing how the things that are closest and dearest to us are often the ones we take for granted?

In a spirit of courage, I asked one of my daughters the following question:

How do you think I can be a better father?

Gulp.

There’s something about the honesty of kids that’s both a little scary and very refreshing. She responded by suggesting three things.

  1. “We should play more games together.”
  2. “You should spend less time on the computer.”
  3. “You should have some funnier jokes.”

#1 and #2 are spot on. We need to resurrect our passion for Scrabble and Monopoly. And keep the laptop/smartphone off when I come home till 9pm when the kids go to sleep.

As for the comment about #3 and funnier jokes, I’m tempted to ground her for that comment. Totally off. Wrong.

I can’t help it if she can’t appreciate my brilliant sense of humor.

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16 Responses

  1. dmbaldwin says:

    Hey Eugene,
    I totally understand the joke thing. Here’s an idea. When we would invite people over for dinner after dinner it always got around to telling crazy college stories with those that came over. In high school our son confided in me that he thought the only reason we had people over for dinner was to tell funny college stories. One evening he called me from college conveying a great prank his dorm floor had carried off. After we laughed and talked for a bit I told him he was building his repertoire of funny college stories to tell with those he and his future wife invited over for dinner. That was good.
    Have an awesome 2011 Eugene.
    Blessings,
    Dave

  2. g says:

    The older that kids get, the more they understand the humor in sarcasm and irony. Probably one of the biggest differences I’ve noticed since teaching 4th/5th graders versus last year’s 3rd graders. heh.

  3. Bryan says:

    surprised they didn’t complain about your Bill Russell like stats in block shots per game in family b-ball

  4. Kenny says:

    Oh come on Eugene, I remember your jokes back from the Onnuri days. Your daughter is spot on with all three.

    On another note, it turns out my friends Mike Ahn and his wife Miki attend your church now and love it there.

  5. LOL. I love kids! I totally understand why Jesus welcomed children. I’m sure he had the most fun with them! That 3rd point should apply to us all… been thinking about blogging about that for awhile; it’s a deep thought with many implications. In 2011, I hope to find the meaning of life. haha. How about that for a general…long-term…life-long goal? Or just how to make a living being a musician.

  6. Leo Chen says:

    Since returning from my 3-week vacation when I had no phone, no email, no internet, no facebook, I have a new-found freedom from all of them. I intend to keep it that way going into this new year. It’s actually not as much about freedom from any of the above as freedom to spend more time with people face to face and having more real relationships instead of virtual relationships. Instead of tweeting about what I want to do, I hope to have more time doing them instead of being glued to the computer.

  7. Tony Lin says:

    By the way, how many hours do you think you put in each week? I’d be curious to hear from other pastors as well. Someone asked me that awhile back but I had no clue. I wanted to say about 40 but after I started thinking about it, I think it’s a lot more…

    • Eugene Cho says:

      tony: to be honest, i don’t really know but i look at a full-time work week at 50 hours/week. i know that there are weeks i do 60 but 50 is a great balance for me. and fwiw, 50 was what my denomination, ECC, created for me when quest went from non-denominational to ECC.

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