Eugene Cho

to simply be…

It’s that time of the year where many are formulating their new year’s resolutions.

I suppose that I have a list of a few mental resolutions I will again aspire to tackle including one that involves my expanding waistline but that’s not the point of this post.😉

But rather than focusing on achieving goals or milestones, I’ve been thinking along some other wavelengths. Mind you, I typically resonate with goals, milestones, metrics, and quantifiable stuff. Last year (this time), my goals focused on launching and establishing One Day’s Wages and stabilizing Quest Church and I feel really good about both.

But this year, I have no such goals or tasks. Rather,

my hope is to simply be…

By this, I’m also specifically mindful of wanting to…

  • be a better husband.
  • be a better father.

Clearly, easier said than done but nevertheless, these aspects of my calling have always been important but more often than not, are the ones that are more readily pushed aside.

Isn’t it amazing how the things that are closest and dearest to us are often the ones we take for granted?

In a spirit of courage, I asked one of my daughters the following question:

How do you think I can be a better father?

Gulp.

There’s something about the honesty of kids that’s both a little scary and very refreshing. She responded by suggesting three things.

  1. “We should play more games together.”
  2. “You should spend less time on the computer.”
  3. “You should have some funnier jokes.”

#1 and #2 are spot on. We need to resurrect our passion for Scrabble and Monopoly. And keep the laptop/smartphone off when I come home till 9pm when the kids go to sleep.

As for the comment about #3 and funnier jokes, I’m tempted to ground her for that comment. Totally off. Wrong.

I can’t help it if she can’t appreciate my brilliant sense of humor.

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  1. dmbaldwin says:

    Hey Eugene,
    I totally understand the joke thing. Here’s an idea. When we would invite people over for dinner after dinner it always got around to telling crazy college stories with those that came over. In high school our son confided in me that he thought the only reason we had people over for dinner was to tell funny college stories. One evening he called me from college conveying a great prank his dorm floor had carried off. After we laughed and talked for a bit I told him he was building his repertoire of funny college stories to tell with those he and his future wife invited over for dinner. That was good.
    Have an awesome 2011 Eugene.
    Blessings,
    Dave

  2. g says:

    The older that kids get, the more they understand the humor in sarcasm and irony. Probably one of the biggest differences I’ve noticed since teaching 4th/5th graders versus last year’s 3rd graders. heh.

  3. Bryan says:

    surprised they didn’t complain about your Bill Russell like stats in block shots per game in family b-ball

  4. Kenny says:

    Oh come on Eugene, I remember your jokes back from the Onnuri days. Your daughter is spot on with all three.

    On another note, it turns out my friends Mike Ahn and his wife Miki attend your church now and love it there.

  5. LOL. I love kids! I totally understand why Jesus welcomed children. I’m sure he had the most fun with them! That 3rd point should apply to us all… been thinking about blogging about that for awhile; it’s a deep thought with many implications. In 2011, I hope to find the meaning of life. haha. How about that for a general…long-term…life-long goal? Or just how to make a living being a musician.

  6. Leo Chen says:

    Since returning from my 3-week vacation when I had no phone, no email, no internet, no facebook, I have a new-found freedom from all of them. I intend to keep it that way going into this new year. It’s actually not as much about freedom from any of the above as freedom to spend more time with people face to face and having more real relationships instead of virtual relationships. Instead of tweeting about what I want to do, I hope to have more time doing them instead of being glued to the computer.

  7. Tony Lin says:

    By the way, how many hours do you think you put in each week? I’d be curious to hear from other pastors as well. Someone asked me that awhile back but I had no clue. I wanted to say about 40 but after I started thinking about it, I think it’s a lot more…

    • Eugene Cho says:

      tony: to be honest, i don’t really know but i look at a full-time work week at 50 hours/week. i know that there are weeks i do 60 but 50 is a great balance for me. and fwiw, 50 was what my denomination, ECC, created for me when quest went from non-denominational to ECC.

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She was a devoted wife until she lost her husband to cancer, mother to three daughters, and later became a pastor. She became a follower of Christ as an adult and as such, led her her family to Christ. In her late 50s, she obeyed God's calling to go to seminary and be a leader in the church. She graduated #1 in her class and reminded us that it's never too late to follow a new dream or calling.

As she'll soon celebrate her 80th birthday, I'm especially grateful for the ways that she poured into and prayed over Minhee and her other children.  Even though she's officially retired, I'm inspired that the concept of retirement is not in her vocabulary.  She continues to serve the local church, evangelize and bear witness to Christ, and goes to the early morning prayer meeting at 5am everyday to pray for our family, our church, and for others. 
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Someday, I hope that when my kids speak of Minhee and I...above all, they would say with integrity that their parents prayed for them and kept pointing them to Christ. On this Mother's Day, I want to take a few words to honor mother.

There’s a moment from a few years ago that will stick with me until the day I die. It’s regarding Sung Wha, my mother.

Minhee and I were at a point of transition, between working at an ethnic Korean church in the northern suburbs of Seattle called Lynnwood and launching Quest in urban Seattle. As I shared earlier, I was in desperate need of a job. I had a mortgage to pay. A pregnant wife. A kid at home. 
Then, praise God, after months without work, I finally landed a job.

My mom was in between jobs at this point in her life. She was in her late fifties, but she had such bad knees and degenerative hips that it was, and is, difficult for her to walk. My mom is like a human barometer—when a storm is coming and when it rains, her hips throb. Although my parents lived in San Francisco, she was visiting us in Seattle to encourage us in this difficult season.

As I prepared to go to work one early morning, I walked downstairs to put on my jacket and shoes, and forgot that my mother woke up early every morning to pray. In fact, she had been praying for months that I would find a job. “Eugene, where are you going?” she said when she saw me.

I hadn’t told my mother the news that I had just recently been hired for the janitorial gig at Barnes and Noble. I chose not to because I thought she and my father would be devastated. I didn’t want them to think that after laboring, sacrificing, and doing so much for us over all those years that their son had failed them.

But I couldn’t lie to her, so eventually I told my mom that I got a job and was going to work. “Great! What job? What are you doing?” “Um, I’m working at Barnes and Noble as their custodian,” I said finally.

Without asking another question, my mother got up from the dining table where she had been reading her Bible and praying. She slowly walked slowly toward me.

She approached me, then walked past me without saying a word, and I realized she was headed toward the closet. She opened the closet door, put on her jacket, turned around and said to me (in Korean), “Eugene, let’s go together. I will help you.” This is my mother.

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