Eugene Cho

gender, church, and the art of alternate endings

* While I’ve written my share of posts expressing support for egalitarianism, justice, and women’s leadership in society (particularly in the Church), I’m no champion of gender equality. In fact, I make my share of goof-ups but what I’ve come to realize is that like everyone, I have my blind spots. One of my blind spots deals with gender or to be more blunt, I don’t always understand or see things from the lens of a woman for the obvious reason that I’m a dude (and thank God that I’m a man and not a woman!)

Several important remedies to our blind spots are to acknowledge them and to put ourselves in situations where we can learn. Additionally, we need courage to engage the conversation and grace to help sustain the conversation into transformation. And so with that in mind, today’s guest post, Gender and the Art of Alternate Endings, is from Dr. Michelle Garred – an independent researcher and consultant in international peacebuilding. She also worships at Quest Church and c0-leads one of our community groups. She asks some compelling questions:

Why does this distorted social setting appear to pit me in competition against my husband and best friend? Why can’t someone meet a couple and assume that these two inter-dependent individuals both have something to offer? Why should I be forced to wield my trump cards as instruments of power, making conversation into a contact sport? Most importantly, what about the many women who don’t have trump cards, but who do have boundless gifts to be shared with the Church? Who sees those women? And who hears them?

Take a read and let me know what you think.

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I love those children’s books that have alternate endings for the reader to choose from. What a sweet freedom to decide how a story will end!

My husband and I recently attended a denominational leadership conference, which prompted me consider my own alternate endings…

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“So, what do you do for a living in Seattle?” The man looks intently at my husband Brent across the lunch table, and the two become engrossed in a discussion of green building design. I sit and listen, enjoying the conversation, and anticipating that at some point the same question will be directed toward me. But that never happens. Our new acquaintance, who holds a lot of stature at this conference, does not appear to connect the topic of making a living with me as an individual. I don’t know why – the ‘gender vibes’ feel palpable, Read the rest of this entry »

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Freestyle bagpipes. Santa Monica Pier. Grateful for the 24 hours in Santa Barbara to encourage local churches ... and to enjoy such views. 
Lord, are you calling me to Santa Barbara? :) I hate you, Santa Barbara! About 6 weeks ago, I had the best 10 hour layover in Seoul, Korea. 4 meals, 2 outdoor markets, 2 museums, and some beautiful tourist sites in winter, crisp weather. 
But no visit to the mokyoktang (public bathing sauna). Seattle fog. Reminds me of growing up in San Francisco. Thanks to Seahawks and Panthers for this special father-son memory before the game. 
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  • When I'm tempted to be significant, I have to remind myself that I'm nothing apart from the grace of God...and that becomes my significance. || 4 hours ago
  • Time flies. College tour with my oldest kid (HS junior). We checked out UCLA, Azusa, & Westmont (and In-N-Out). http://t.co/gCmQeDr3XC || 4 hours ago
  • Kenji Goto: Mourning your loss. Grieving for your family. Moved by your courage. Honored to call you a brother-in-Christ. Rest in peace. || 9 hours ago
  • RT @WorldVisionUSA: For the #childrenofSyria, “Let's do what we can. Let's do it with love.” –@EugeneCho bit.ly/1ynUhS6 http://t.co… || 1 day ago
  • RT @OneDaysWages: "We know we can't change the entire situation in Iraq & Syria but that's not an excuse to do nothing..." -@eugenecho http… || 2 days ago
  • Even scars can be redemptive. They are a testament to God's grace & our fortitude. Our scars can even serve as encouragement/wisdom to many. || 2 days ago
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