Eugene Cho

gender, church, and the art of alternate endings

* While I’ve written my share of posts expressing support for egalitarianism, justice, and women’s leadership in society (particularly in the Church), I’m no champion of gender equality. In fact, I make my share of goof-ups but what I’ve come to realize is that like everyone, I have my blind spots. One of my blind spots deals with gender or to be more blunt, I don’t always understand or see things from the lens of a woman for the obvious reason that I’m a dude (and thank God that I’m a man and not a woman!)

Several important remedies to our blind spots are to acknowledge them and to put ourselves in situations where we can learn. Additionally, we need courage to engage the conversation and grace to help sustain the conversation into transformation. And so with that in mind, today’s guest post, Gender and the Art of Alternate Endings, is from Dr. Michelle Garred – an independent researcher and consultant in international peacebuilding. She also worships at Quest Church and c0-leads one of our community groups. She asks some compelling questions:

Why does this distorted social setting appear to pit me in competition against my husband and best friend? Why can’t someone meet a couple and assume that these two inter-dependent individuals both have something to offer? Why should I be forced to wield my trump cards as instruments of power, making conversation into a contact sport? Most importantly, what about the many women who don’t have trump cards, but who do have boundless gifts to be shared with the Church? Who sees those women? And who hears them?

Take a read and let me know what you think.


I love those children’s books that have alternate endings for the reader to choose from. What a sweet freedom to decide how a story will end!

My husband and I recently attended a denominational leadership conference, which prompted me consider my own alternate endings…


“So, what do you do for a living in Seattle?” The man looks intently at my husband Brent across the lunch table, and the two become engrossed in a discussion of green building design. I sit and listen, enjoying the conversation, and anticipating that at some point the same question will be directed toward me. But that never happens. Our new acquaintance, who holds a lot of stature at this conference, does not appear to connect the topic of making a living with me as an individual. I don’t know why – the ‘gender vibes’ feel palpable, Read the rest of this entry »

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You are where you are for a reason. To he light and salt. Pray for your neighborhood and city. 
Praying this morning for my city - Seattle. Birds. Clouds. Trees. Nature. Breathe. Sabbath. Grateful for the walks with my wife around the neighborhood exploring the Fall foliage. Love this season. Grateful for your prayers, support, and generosity. Because of you, @onedayswages just sent off this $25,000 check to Catalyst Foundation and their work in Vietnam. This grant will improve the food security of many families of the Raglai people - one of the most marginalized and poorest ethnic groups in Vietnam. THANK YOU. A good Sabbath day of rest, reflection, and fishing at one of my favorite local places. Oh, and a beautiful silver salmon for dinner.

#deceptionpass #fishon #salmonfishing God is so gracious. Inspired by what God did at the #NewLifeConf in Colorado Springs. What a privilege to encourage other leaders and pastors. Thank you @pastorbrady67 for inviting me. The highlight was meeting the 30 or so men who are in a drug & alcohol recovery program. They sold banana bread to raise money to make their way from New Mexico to learn. What a reminder that God is a God of redemption.

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