I don’t have a perfect marriage. I am not perfect. Minhee, my wife, is not perfect as well.
I also respect and admire her for so many things. Some of them include her gentleness, humility, and…her sense of humor. I walked into our bedroom last Sunday with her doing her facial mask thing (which she rarely does). It made me laugh since it kind of scared me. I took a picture and when I threatened to post in on Facebook, she responded:
“You should. People need to laugh and enjoy life.”
After I posted the picture (below), many commenters freaked out and wondered what kind of big trouble I would get into for posting the picture. :-)
As Minhee and I both enter our 40s, our “lens” has and continues to change. For the same reason that I wouldn’t have had the guts to share publicly about our biggest mistakes in our marriage in the past, I don’t think Minhee would have been willing or able to laugh at herself and actually encourage me to post the picture 10 years ago (or maybe even more recently).
It’s not that we don’t care about our image but maybe it’s because we do – in a changing way.
And in our growing age (and hopefully maturity), we both know that the image of perfection is simply unattainable, unrealistic, and damaging – to ourselves and to others.
You’ve heard it said that people need to take their masks off…
But in this case, maybe we should show our masks.
And while we’re at it, my beauty is all natural. No mask required!