As a father of two young girls [my youngest is a son], I am appalled at what seems to be a weekly occurrence of my daughters sharing with me how school boys keep telling them how much weaker, slower, inferior, and “you can’t do this” kind of statements. It’s opening my eyes and heart in painful ways. And the sad truth, I fear, is that not much will change as they grow to be adult women. They will experience opposition – albeit in more subtle or systemic ways or in the stories I share below, directly.
I’m not trying to get brownie points from my female readers, but here are two examples – locally and nationally – of the ways women are exploited and disrespected.
The first involves naked and bikini dressed female baristas. Yes, you read that correctly. Guess who the coffee shop owners are? It’s not a secret that business at our Q CAFE isn’t going as well as we’d want, but the answer is clear: Matt will not be making your latte naked!
Here’s the article via CNN:
BONNEY LAKE, Wash. – Each week, Hot Chicka Latte in Bonney Lake features “Pasties Tuesday.” The barista behind the counter bared so much we couldn’t show her on TV.
But drive by on Sumner-Buckley Highway and she’s out there for all to see.
“Turn on the TV, pick up the magazine, it’s everywhere. We’re not doing anything unusual,” said owner Russ Parrish.
The owner of the espresso stand says they aren’t breaking any laws or health codes.
“According to the law, they can wear pasties and bikini bottoms, as long as they’re wearing shoes,” said Parrish.
Down the street at Cowgirls Espresso, which opened a week ago, the baristas sport bikinis, but CEO Scott Arbuckle says that’s as far as they will go.
The pasties-clad baristas have generated outrage in the community and a protest is planned for this weekend.
Each week, Hot Chicka Latte in Bonney Lake features “Pasties Tuesday.”
And the city council is trying to find a way to cite them for indecent exposure.
“Most cities are concerned that as soon as you cite someone for the pasties, you’re going to find yourself in a legal battle that’s probably going to be going on for months,” said Bonney Lake Mayor Neil Johnson.
The bottom line is the businesses make more money this way.
“Guys like girls in bikinis, what guy in their right mind doesn’t want a pretty girl to say hi and serve them coffee?” said Parrish.
A Seattle man’s co-workers and friends have started a group called “Supporters of Bikini Baristas of America.” They may launch a counter protest this weekend. They say they want to support small businesses, who they say are being unfairly targeted.
The second example comes from one of the most accomplished women in the contemporary history of the United States: Hilary Clinton. Whether you are pro or anti Hilary, this was completely out of line. Stupid crazy.
Discussing Sen. Hillary Clinton’s comments regarding sexism in the media’s coverage of her presidential campaign, CNN senior legal analyst Jeffrey Toobin noted on the May 20 edition of CNN’s The Situation Room that “[t]here was a column in The New York Times not too long ago where it talked about some of the humor in the campaign, and the punch line was a line that was — that Hillary Clinton was a ‘white bitch.’ ” Moments later, as TPM Media reporter-blogger Greg Sargent noted, CNN political contributor Alex Castellanos interrupted, asserting, “And some women, by the way, are named that and it’s accurate,” adding of Clinton, “[S]he is a tough — that tough lady, tough in politics, that’s been her great strength. But let’s face it, she can be a very abrasive, aggressive, irritating person, and a lot of voters, I think, see her that way.”
CNN senior political analyst Gloria Borger responded: “Yeah, but a lot of voters don’t, you know.” Castellanos interjected: “It doesn’t have to be unanimous.” Later in the conversation, Castellanos asserted that Clinton is “very good at playing the professional victim until she gets up closely … and then can put a knife in your ribs. … [T]here is no weakness in this lady.” He also said: “I have a problem with Hillary Clinton playing victim when it’s convenient. I have a problem — it’s not a problem at all when she’s doing well. It’s not a problem. But the minute she’s trapped in the corner, it doesn’t look like the math adds up, she doesn’t look like she has her way to get — then all of a sudden, she’s the … poor, weak … cookie-baking lady.”